A Journey with Love and Laughter

Read about our family as we journey through life as a family, with siblings, school and spina bifida, and lots of fun and laughter along the way!

Thursday, June 9, 2016

Getting Ready... 1 week away

We are one week away from Nick's surgery.
I have been trying different things to get Nick ready. But first I wanted to look over my own resources. I had a collection of booklets and the Sick Kids video when we were getting ready for surgery 2 years ago.

I also reviewed my blogging from his MACE surgery to see if I had any tips or tricks
  • surgery day - http://riddingfamily.blogspot.ca/2014/07/surgery-day.html
  • night and bleeding/pain - http://riddingfamily.blogspot.ca/2014/07/a-rough-evening.html
  • recovery/day 1 - http://riddingfamily.blogspot.ca/2014/07/a-new-day.html
  • visitors - http://riddingfamily.blogspot.ca/2014/07/visitors.html
  • discharge - http://riddingfamily.blogspot.ca/2014/07/we-are-outta-here.html
It helped me to remember what had worked and what hadn't.

I had printed out another workbook, but Nick wasn't interested in it.
He told me "Mommy, I just had surgery (botox). I know what to do" 

So we talked a lot about what to expect. And I had some props


He didn't want to have his blood pressure taken. But was very interested in the stethoscope.



We watched the Sick Kids video again



We have talked a lot about how I will be with him the entire time (except  during the operation when he will be asleep).

I have been making lists about what to pack. Including clothes for myself for 5 days, some food (so I'm not eating all cafeteria food) and entertainment for Nick.
I don't really know how to prepare Nick for afterwards, because I am not even sure.

Katheryn has been there when Nick and I have talked about what to expect. She had some questions as well. We are trying to keep her routine as normal as possible, so she will come to visit on the weekend and will stay in school. She wanted to come and stay at the hospital.

It has been a long journey to being 1 week away. Starting in being taken by surprise March 1st and almost on the road to recovery.

Sunday, June 5, 2016

Katheryn's First Communion

Katheryn had her first communion this weekend.
I hadn't at first realized how elaborate some of the dresses are. Like little wedding dressing (which I guess it the point). As someone who never did a first communion, this was new to me. I have attended lots of Catholic masses and I know the concept.

Similar to my own wedding dress we wanted a dress that was simple, tea length (below knee) and twirly. Twirly was a must.


Katheryn was very excited. She had been learning about First Communion all year. She was one of the children who got to bring  the wine up. And she even answered one of the questions the priest asked during mass!


The priest went through some of the different ways to accept the Eucharist. I remember when we were kids they could only take it on the tongue. (I think some priests got bitten and now it is a choice)


Afterwards we got some pictures.
Nice and cute, kids together



 Funny picture with mommy (My favorite picture)


Funny picture with Daddy


The kids love doing the funny pictures. It lets me get all of the nice pictures


Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Questions Answered and a Plan

We have had more appointments for Nickolas so far this year than we had all last year (and last year our SB clinic was divided into 3 days). Katheryn has been feeling the difference and has asked to come to an appointment with us.

We had warned her that it wouldn't be all fun and games. That there would be lots of boring waiting.


We were going to have a busy day. With neurosurgery, ultrasound, urology, bloodwork and visiting another mommy and son at Sick Kids.

We made this appointment with neurosurgery to review all the questions I had for Nick's upcoming surgery. I haven't been having so much second thoughts about the surgery as much as questions about the surgery. I can see Nick getting tired more easily as he continues to walk so well with his crutches. But I have also seen his legs do some funky things to do this. Instead of just turning his foot in, he is turning his leg in and moving his leg from his hip.


We met with a fellow first who went through an assessment of Nick and asked some questions before Dr Rutka came in. When Dr Rutka came in I went through all of my questions written down in a book on stick-it notes.

First of all he is not going to do a spinal shunt. There will be nothing left inside Nick. I think I heard this the first appointment, but obviously I was wrong.
  • This is an example I could find online. Nick's cyst is a lot lower down than in this picture, below his shoulder blades. The cyst is within the spinal cord and is pushing the spinal cord out of place. The mobility difference that we are seeing is because of this.


Dr Rutka explained to us what he will be doing for the surgery.
He is going to fenestrate the cyst. Pretty much this means put some holes in it (in medical talk). This will allow his body to absorb the fluid.

For the surgery he will remove 2 of the spinal processes (the pointy part of the back) to get access to the cyst. But he will put these back, he called it an laminoplasty. And then it will heal.
The bones of the back are meant to protect the spinal cord, and the spinal cord is what he needs to access.


He will have about a 2" scar in the middle of his back, between his original scar and shoulder blades. And he will use absorbable sutures (not staples) so nothing has to come out.

We also talked about tethered cord. He felt that tethered cord surgery was not necessary at this time. He said that tethered cord was a much more invasive surgery and he wanted start with the least invasive option at this time and reassess after 6-12 months.
That made us feel a lot better.


Some of the other questions we got the expected answers. Miss the week of school, no swimming for 6 weeks and hospital stay for 3-4 days. He said home Mon or Tues (which is longer than 3-4 days, so we will have to see), but Nick has never gone home on the earlier days or expected discharge.
It all depends on how he is doing. There are risk of complications as well, including infection and leaking.

Katheryn and Nick spent all the time playing with all of the toys and having a great time.


We also talked with the surgical nurse about what we needed to do before surgery as well. I knew we needed bloodwork done. But when we had surgery other times with urology we also had to have an anesthesia consult and sign off by his pediatrician. She said they really only doing it if there are multiple disciplines involved.
So what this really means is that urology cares about neurosurgery (and wants everything signed off), but neurosurgery doesn't care about urology. Very simplified of course.

We had to hurry to get to his ultrasound appointment, but surprisingly we made it on time.
Nick was very interested in the ultrasound. He asked if he could see what was in his belly button. So after they looked at his kidney's we looked at his belly button. We couldn't really see the MACE, but we could see how bowel moving, and I teased him that I could see his Ninja Turtle cereal moving around in there.

Urology came afterwards. We had hoped to talk with the urology NP to come up with a plan for our hospital stay, but she wasn't there. We met with Dr Lorenzo about the Botox, he agrees that it was the deflux failing in April. But we have restarted the gelnique and he has been pretty dry again.
So at this time we aren't going with anything else surgical with urology. But in the future may be some other ways to tighten the bladder neck (which I have always believed is the problem).

Then it was time for some lunch!
I don't think that we convinced Katheryn that appointments are very boring...


Finally Nick had to get his blood taken. He was the most nervous about this. He has been asking questions, like how much blood with they take, and will it hurt. But he was very, very brave. He sat on my lap and I held him. His whole body tensed up when the needle went in, but after that he was very good. He even took a peak at it! It was only at the very end that he said that it hurt.
I told Nick how brave he was. But he told me he wasn't brave at all, because it still hurt. I gave him a huge hug! He was so brave!


After all of our appointments, it was time to make it home for a family nap!
But we all feel better about the surgery and our plan.

Friday, May 27, 2016

One Hour

Every night we have an hour of time we need to fill. This is time that we take Nick away from whatever he was doing to get ready for bed, and includes his bathroom routine.

This is our routine, he knows that at 8 at night it is time to get upstairs. That doesn't mean he still doesn't fight us about it. We used to watch movies for the hour. It kept him distracted, but didn't really add any value, especially when he needs help with school.

So instead of putting on movies every night we look for some other things to do for fun.
Like shooting people with water, wearing Elsa gloves for some reason (or just because it is fun)


And Nick has been having fun following the directions to put together lego (something he wasn't interested in doing before).


Nick has a huge imagination. And he will always find something to distract himself with. If he doesn't have toys to play with (and we have a collection of mini action figures) he will play something with his hands (usually Ninja Turtles, Avengers or Star Wars, or a combination of all 3).

One hour of every night is an opportunity we are trying not to waste.  Sometimes it is the only time of the day that I get to see the kids (because I don't get home from work until late). And sometimes the movie or game or activity that Nick had to be pulled away from is replaced with another movie or game. And sometimes it is the time of day we can do homework without being distracted.
Either way it is one hour of the day that Nick needs to do. And finding ways to balance what he needs to do, with what he wants  to do is important.

Monday, May 23, 2016

Long Weekend and the Lake

The first Long Weekend of the summer!
The kids are very excited to be up at the cottage. It has been a couple of months since we were here last


Of course the first thing they wanted to do was to go down to the lake!
At first it was just going to be putting our feet in. But that didn't last long


And pretty soon everyone was in the lake
... well not everyone


The water was cold, and while it was sunny there was still a wind.
Nick didn't last as long as Katheryn did


Nick liked pretending that he was the emperor, and he was shooting lightening at me!


Rory liked it by the lake. And stayed close... most of the time


The kids went in the lake every day of the weekend.
I would get my feet wet, but that was about it


They had lots of fun going out deeper and deeper


These 2 water bugs had all kinds of games that they were playing together


But they  had lots of fun in the water!


They could only be in the water about 1-2 hours of the day.
But there was lots of other ways to have fun

Like waking Daddy up

And trying to lift him up


And I made up a scavenger hunt


They had lots of fun running around the property looking for everything (and the stick as tall as Nick was doubled as something else later in the night)


Katheryn was really proud of all of the things that she collected


Her favorite was the pebble as small as her nail


Nick's favorite was something that is a funny shape


Another favorite activity of the weekend was the bonfires


And of course roasting marshmallows (with sticks as tall as they are)


Everyone wanted to roast their own marshmallows (and that fact that I kept setting my own on fire had nothing to do with it)


And Nick had his in some messy S'mores


Of course they aren't tired! They are wide awake and want to stay by the fire!


We had another fantastic Victoria Day Weekend!