We have the solution!
Good nites Tru-fit underwear (the link seems to be broken, all I get is a stream of letters), but you can google it.
We are still having some leaking, but having a whole diaper for a bit of leaking is over kill. So then I'm trying to figure out what to do. We've tried the pads over the last year, and they slip around or bunch and leak.
I've seen the Tru-fit underwear before and the pads. The underwear is $27 for 2 pairs of underwear. And I thought that was waaay overpriced, but I bought the pads to just put in regular underwear.
The thing with the true-fit is that there is no sticky backing, so of course the pad didn't stick to anything, and actually fell out.
So when we went on vacation at the end of August I bit the bullet and paid the $40ish for 2 pairs of underwear and a pack of (18) pads. After just a couple of days I couldn't believe how well they worked. They are FANTASTIC!
They are regular underwear, that hold a pad in place, to catch all of the pee.
We have only had one time of leaking out of the underwear, and that was when I put on Nick's underwear I didn't make sure his penis was actually on the pad. It wasn't, so of course when he leaked it wasn't onto the pad.
We've been using the underwear every single day for 3 weeks and that is what I am sending Nick to school wearing. Real underwear! To school!
The difference between the underwear is an inner liner that is made to fit continence pads, while the outside is regular underwear. I've now bought 6 pairs of underwear so we have enough to get through the week.
I've been looking to see if anyone can sew these liners that I can just clip into regular underwear, but I can't find anybody. My sister wasn't able to, she was pushing cloth diapers that do the same thing, but I really don't want Nick to carry around peed-in liners when he is in school.
The outside looks just like regular underwear
Nick isn't as excited as I am. He says he likes wearing the diaper, which he still wears overnight. But once we get the underwear on him he is good.
We use the tru-fit pads at school, which are bigger, but more expensive. And at home we use regular adult incontinence pads, which still fit but are a bit smaller. They have a sticky back, but I don't stick them on.
*I wondered about latex, the amazon.com sites says that it is NOT made with natural rubber latex!
This is such a great creation. I'm so glad we are able to use them!